Showing posts with label Jacob. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Jacob. Show all posts

Saturday, May 07, 2016

ANOTHER BIRTHDAY...JAKE'S 19TH

It's kind of handy being born on a bank holiday weekend - it means your almost always free to have a party! You can't always guarantee the weather, but you win some, you lose some.



So last weekend Jake turned 19. It still seems odd to think I have an working, adult son who will only be a teenager for one more year. Thankfully, working also means he can contribute to the cost of his own party - i.e. if he wants alcohol he can buy it!



So, he arranged to have a BBQ with a bunch of friends over. The weather was a warm, but a bit tempermental, with showers and cloud intermittently. Overall though, it was good and the teens did manage to spend a bit of time outside - and Paul did manage to cook without getting soaked :D


Heather, his girlfriend was also able to be here for the weekend, which was nice. He and she had been clubbing in Manchester (where she lives) on the Saturday night, until the early hours, so by the time they arrived home Sunday afternoon they were both a little tired. Unfortunately, due to a turn of events, Paul, myself and all the chids were in Wigan at gym competition, so when they got back to ours they couldn't actually get in. They camped out in our playroom (which thankfully has a seperate door to the main house and is not locked) until we got back at tea-time. Poor kids. It wasn't the warmest day, so they huddled together on the sofa and kipped I think. And then they went to bed pretty early, ready for a busy day on Monday - which was party day.


  


  


  




Caleb's gym comp went well, and he got possibly his best scores to date, but the competition is tough now he's in the under 12's. He's little and dinky (but strong none-the-less). He couldn't do floor due to a weak ankle at the moment, and not wanting to take a risk because he has a grades competition coming up in June, which is more important. He didn't medal, but I was very proud of him all the same. 

This week the sun has come out at last, and we have mostly migrated to hanging out in the garden, and working there as much as we can. I am in fact in the garden just now, typing this out on my tablet. It's warm and breezy and I love it. This morning has been a little stressful - seriously, how long can it take for 3 boys to tidy one room, and why do things always get damaged in the process?! The chids are supposed to get their chores done by Friday evening, so they can chill on a Saturday, but invariably they push it back and the Saturday ends up being a long round of nagging to get jobs done before the next week comes around :( The sunshine has definitely been an added distraction this week too. I, on the other hand, have done so much washing and drying on the line this week that I have run out of washing liquid!

  
  

  
    





Saturday, May 02, 2015

18 YEARS AGO...

18 years ago today... I became 'mummy' for the very first time...

...And today is the day I become mother to an adult! Yes, so he's still a teenager, but is a full legal sense he is an adult. 


18 years ago today the UK heralded the dawn of a 'new-labour' government ~ and now, in just a few days time, the boy born moments after the results were announced, gets to vote himself on the government for his future (and ours).

I will never forget the moment I held that tiny red boy in my arms and how my heart just knew such overwhelming love for him. His is the pregnancy I remember most clearly, and the labour and the birth ~ not because it was painful, but because it was beautiful! He paved the way for me: he gave me faith in my body and enough insight into of it's ways, that allowed me to safely birth 7 more children at home. He taught me that I am strong ~ and brave ~ and able!

Jake was not the easiest baby, or toddler, or small boy, or slightly bigger boy!
BUT he was always funny, chatty, clever, quirky and very winsome ~ he is still all those things. I always adored him - even on the days when he drove me to tears! 

He was always very easily distracted and discipline was difficult with him because he was very 'self governing' ~ such a strong sense of self and a will to go with it! In these regards he's not much changed, but the difficulties that come with those characteristics are now tempered with more awareness of how he affects others around him and a growing understanding of how to turn his struggles into strengths.

Jake always struggled with physical affection ~ even as a tiny baby ~ he needed hugs and cuddles, but disliked the restriction they brought. He cried to be held, then struggled to get down. He fed in a hurry and cried often for more, because he never quite took enough in one sitting! Thankfully, as he has grown he has found ways to show his affections without being uncomfortable ~ I even get a hug from him occasionally these days ;-) ~ and he is always very loving and affectionate towards his younger siblings - they adore him.

I know Jake has always born the brunt of my parenting struggles ~ being the first every step of the way is definitely the short straw! But I hope he knows how much I love him ~ that deep, deep love (and hint of pride) that wells up when I look at the lovely man he is becoming. I hurt when he hurts. I rejoice when things go well for him. I ache when I see a fall ahead, and I struggle to resist reaching out to stop him hurting himself, but, just as when he was small, he would rather run ahead of himself and face the scraped knees than walk quietly and sensibly by my side! He has always been a 'go for it' kind of person and I don't wish to change that about him at all. I want to send him out to 'go get the best out of your life' with all my blessing. I want him to aim high and not be afraid to fail ~ to be true to God and himself, to be faithFULL and fearLESS!


The way ahead is just about to spread wide before him, with choices everywhere he looks. Each choice will shape him and lead him to more choices. I'm not sure he has a plan really ~ and in some ways I love that he doesn't because he is free to go wherever his journey takes him. He's never really been a planner, or a forward thinker, and I suspect he will always be somewhat swept along by the waves that pass underneath him - sometimes bobbing gently along with life, sometimes hurtling rapidly towards the next adventure and occasionally (not too often I hope) recoiling from a storm. In six weeks time he leaves college ~ and full time education. He isn't going into higher education. He is content to have achieved what he hopes will be a very acceptable grade in his Btec and to now want to go and 'get a job'. Ideally he would still love that job to include photography in some way, but he is aware that his love of images may just have to remain a passion until he can find a way to make his passion pay!

And so I'm left wondering and praying about what the future holds for my grown-up boy:

I pray for his happiness.
I pray for his health.
I pray for his peace.
I pray for his success ~ however he measures it.

I pray for his 'one-day' marriage:

  • I pray he falls deeply, madly in love, marries and stays faithful to beautiful Christian woman, who will walk by his side through all that life throws at him ~ the good and the not so great, as it is apt to do. And that he will cherish her like nothing else ~ and love her like his Dad loves me ~ utterly and completely. 
  • I pray that his wife will love him, cherish him and encourage him, and when life gets rough she will know how to help him through. 
  • I pray that his marriage will be strong and beautiful. That he will be able to take the good stuff he's learnt from his Dad and I and build on that to make his marriage even better than ours. That their faith in God will be at the very centre of every decision they make together and will be the cord that binds them and entwines them. 

And if he never marries ~ I pray that the relationships he has with Jesus, his friends and his family can be all those things for him!



We love him Lord. When he was a tiny baby Paul & I entrusted him to you, acknowledging that he was always more yours than ours. We've raised him as best as we could and taught him of you. We've encouraged him to find you for himself ~ and he has. So now, it's coming time to let him travel with you, without us so much at his side. It's nearing the time where we have to let go and let him find his own path. It hurts Lord, but then Love often does. Look after him Lord ~ he's Your precious child.









Sunday, May 03, 2009

JA turned 12 today!! One more year to teens - how did that happen?!

When he was small I used to call him my 'little man' - now he is 5'2" and wearing size 6 shoes! I guess that makes him not-so-little anymore :(

I love him to bits - he is funny, stylish (to the point of ridiculous at times!), kind to his siblings, increasingly loving and thoughful - and I even got a hug from him the other day (which made me well-up a little..soppy old mums eh!), creative and sporty. He has boundless energy and zero attention, but he is who he is and I see his promising future slowly unfolding before me.

His birth marked the landmark election of a Labour government - 12 years ago today!

Today possible marks the last year of his 'real' boy-hood. By this time next year his voice may have broken and he will probably be taller than me!

I often wish that time would stand still and allow me to savour these fleeting days of childhood for just a little while longer, but the other part of me really enjoys this roller-coaster ride of motherhood, with all its massive highs and sometimes deep lows. I enjoy the thrill of watching my children's lives unfold before me; their talents developing, their gifts flourishing, their interests deeping, their personalities as mini-adults slowly beginning to emerge. I am looking forward to these teenage years - I really am. I don't want them to arrive too fast, but I don't dread them at all - there's nothing I love more than a lounge full of young lads messing together - it's really funny (and bewildering) to watch :D!

At some point I will have a 19, 17, 15, 14, 13yo in the house (just for three months), so it's probably just as well I'm not dreading it really ;)

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Wednesday, March 25, 2009

Time to Blog…

‘Bout time too I hear you say – where have you been? Answer – nowhere really, but I have (re)discovered photography in a big (you may have noticed by recent posts) as is always the way with me, a new love becomes all-absorbing for a while. I’m not planning on this being a fad though, as it’s not the cheapest hobby. That said, once the initial cost of the camera is spent, it’s not that expensive these days of digital photography. The cost of photo-paper is not that high these days (especially if you shop in Aldi), but tbh I don’t print many anyway, so that makes it even cheaper :D

So, what else has been happening here…

Jacob – same old with him. Nothing much changes. He is growing up rapidly and slowly becoming more responsible. Today he walked Caleb to playgroup for me, as I wasn’t feeling very well. It’s nice to have an older child in the house,  but occasionally he does forget that he is the oldest and you wouldn’t know him from his toddler siblings!!! School wise he is doing OK. Plodding on really, not exceptional, not unacceptable. I still feel I am trying to regain time with him, but I fear it is not going to happen and I am going to have to settle with what he is willing to give – which is just about ok! ConquerMaths is going well, but we abandoned Galore Park purely because of the quantity. There was no way he was going to complete that book in a year and he would be working below his capability because of it. CM is a good compromise. It does stretch him and help him to join sections of maths together in a way he hasn’t done before. We both really like it (as much as Jake is ever going to like maths!!). We have added in some ‘real life’ maths books (on The Manor Born’s) recommendation and both boys are doing these a couple of times a week. I think they are great in that they help them to see WHY we need maths at all and how it is useful in the real world. I can always remember thinking that I would never need half the maths I learnt, and tbh I haven’t much, but if someone had given me books like these at least I would have seen the point of it all! As far as literacy goes, Jake is working slowly through SYRWTL English 1 (Galore Park). It is good I think, but none of my children are much enamoured with these books – sadly. So currently i am thinking of enrolling the two boys with Catherine Mooney, not because I have any intention of doing the IGCSE at the end of it, but because the course looks good, it would take some pressure off me and I actually think they might enjoy it more than anything we have done to date. Joel is advanced enough (I think) to cope with it too, so they could do it together and that might be fun for them – I hope!!

Joel – is still at the infuriating, know-it-all, argumentative, too aggressive 10yo phase. I know he will grow out of it, but that doesn’t make it easier just now. Work wise he is doing really well and I don’t have to worry about him there. He is motivated by time and often starts school early in order to get finished before everyone else! Sadly this is not always possible when we are doing ‘together’ stuff in the afternoon – then he gets a bit grumpy! He has started trampolining of Saturday mornings and he is enjoying it very much – and I think he is probably quite good.

Abbie – my beautiful 8yo helper. She is nearly always willing to help out and is a very good girl on the whole: long may it continue :) School wise I never realise how well she is doing until I see what her little friend, who goes to private school and is ‘about average’ there, is doing – she is quite far beyond average then! Ab’s continues to love her ballet and is now dancing in the grade 2 class (not that she took grade 1 exam, but that’s just how it’s worked out atm). She is also doing OK in her swimming and this week passed up to level 7.

Phoebe – now 7 – is still not where I would like her to be school wise. Her maths is coming on nicely now, at last. Over half term and for a couple of weeks after i set her 20 addition and subtraction sums a day, with no total equalling more than 10. She managed to master them to the point of doing 10 addition in 30 seconds and 10 subtraction in a minute. Once she had that down we were able to move on in her maths to addition with ‘borrowing’ (only in our books it’s called regrouping, which is more accurate really) with numbers to 100. That may seem quite a leap, but it’s been fine and the penny seems to have dropped with her. She is still painfully slow, but she does ‘get it’! On the literacy side, her reading is making slow, but steady progress, but is still not ‘fun’ for he I don’t think. And her writing is neat enough, very legible, but she struggles to put it together and word retrieval is a problem too, just as it was/is for Jake.

Ellie – does school when she feels like it! Well that’s how it seems anyhow, but all the same she is on episode twelve of Headsprout and is beginning to be able to read. She has at last mastered he numbers 1-10 with no further teaching from me and is now well on her way to mastering 11-20 (reading and writing) with, again, very little effort on my part. I leave her alone for the best part and she comes when she is in the mood. She is really the victim of my being a bit stretched, but all the same she is learning and is probably on a par with others her age I’d say. I’m happy with where she is at and who she is. I actually really like the autonomy of learning that she is getting by default and it suits her, so I may stick with it – even if they others do moan a little that “Ellie never does any school”. They are getting used to it though and they can see that she is, it’s just different to theirs. Often I spend snippets of time with her on weekends and ‘out of school’ times – just ten minutes here and there – and that seems to be enough. She sits in on ‘together’ stuff when she chooses to and seems to absorb from that too.  Much of the time though she is playing some fairy tale out in her mind and is very involved in her play. She loves to ‘read’ books and the other day I heard her reading a Clarice Bean book to herself. She had obviously memorised the gist of the story, which was basically Clarice seeking out some peace and quiet, and was using her own words to tell it. At that moment I wished I’d had a dictaphone. The language she was using was colourful, well developed, well structured and full of voices and characters. I think one day, if I manage not to crush that creative flow in her, she might write books. She has beautiful way with words and an astonishing understanding of context for a 5yo. I feel like I really need to keep my ‘hands off’’ this one and see what she becomes…

Caleb – currently has an obsession with numbers and can count to 13 quite well :) His pencil co-ordination is very good and he can copy letters and numbers free-hand quite legibly. He is keen to ‘do school’ and so has his own school carry-box with a few pre-school workbooks in which he loves to do, albeit for only about 10 minutes at a time. He seems bright enough and his speech is developing well at last. His new phrase tonight was '”that’s different!” :D

Nathanael – is my lovable, mischief that only toddlehood brings to a house :D I love this age sooooo much. He is my  funny, charming, caring, naughty, and extremely quick show-off. Every day seems to bring a new word to his speech. Ok, so I can understand him and you may not, but he has a lot of words all the same. He copies EVERYTHING and learns very fast. He is persistent in his learning too. Up until now books have never interested him very much, but the other night I decided to read him ‘Dear Zoo’ – it became an instant favourite: being taken to bed and carried in the pushchair to playgroup. He practiced those animal sounds/actions for a week and then he had them all sorted. New favourite of the week - ‘The Very Hungry Caterpillar’ – you should hear him trying to count the fruit!! Very sweet. So just now books are very much his thing and that makes me happy, especially as he is no longer trying to destroy them, but actually enjoying learning from them. And new trick of the week – emptying – OH NO!! – clean nappy box, wet wipes, page-a-day loose page desk calendar (hmmm – Jake was not impressed!), drinks bottle bag… It’s not that bad, just a bit of a pain!

So, what else is there to tell…

Last weekend was Mother’s Day of course, so for my treat Paul decided we would take a day in The Lakes (my favourite place in all the world) and do a family hike. So on Saturday, we left at 8.30 and arrived in Grasmere just after 11am. By the time we had all been to the loo and had a snack before we started it was about 11.45. Our walk for the day was to climb Raven’s Crag, across to Megs Gill and down, but we seemed to miss the short path down, so we followed the cairns and ended up going  the long way, over Silver Howe (395m/1296ft) and back into the village. About 4.5 miles I’d say and they all walked the whole way!! You can see a map of our walk HERE, the obvious green line and then right a bit over the ridge (not down into Waithwaite). It was a fabulous day. The walk took us a bit over 4 hours, but the sun shone and the kids enjoyed it – on the whole. There were waterfalls and streams for them to play in, which they always love. I’d hoped the waterfalls at the top would be spectacular, but we didn’t even find them. It actually all seemed pretty dry. As we drove through we noticed that even the river running through Ambleside was very dry. That said, we didn’t look very hard at the top because it was VERY windy up there and the kids just wanted to get down again!!

I’ll post some pictures over on Picasa – follow the usual album link :)

I think that just about get’s us up to date. One and  a bit weeks to the Easter hols – woo hoo – I need a break, my enthusiasm is waning and my printer is complaining!!

2009_03_21 Grasmere Hike

Monday, November 10, 2008

Today's educational activities included the making of this;




Jake wrote the play as part of his GP English and they have spent the weekend learning it. It took about 8 shoots to get it right though! The synch'ing is not quite right because I had to convert it to MP4, otherwise it was a massive file, and the synchronisation got lost in translation!!

Ellie wrote this today too :) Free hand and with only a little help to find middle sounds of cat and pit. She really is getting it and was so pleased with herself (as was I of course) to be able to actually write real words :)




Sunday, September 21, 2008

Project work

Jake spent most of today putting THIS together. It's only short and sharp, but he had to do all the research completely by himself. He will present it to 'our class' on Monday, but I am pretty impressed with his use of PP. He has composed this completely independently and although you cannot hear all the nice little boingy sounds etc... and all the fancy animations in googledocs, you can get the gist of it. It really is very good for an 11yo I think :) I am so impressed with Singapore IScience - this was a task set from it - why have they taken it our of circulation?! :(

Tuesday, April 17, 2007

My eldest boy characterised!
I just love this picture and he hasn't appeared here for a while so I thought you'd like to see him!

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